Deciding what to write on a sympathy card or bereavement card is one of the most difficult pieces of writing ever done by any of us. That is why we have compiled and list of Sympathy Messages: What to Write in a Sympathy Card. There are no magic words to heal heartbreak, so it is not expected that you will write them. The most important thing will be your thoughtful act of sending the card. So if you’re struggling to find just the right words of sympathy for someone’s loss right now, let’s take some pressure off immediately.

Below are some recommendations for sympathy card messages.

GENERAL SYMPATHY CARD MESSAGES

  • I am/we are deeply sorry for your loss.
  • I hope you feel the love that surrounds you, now and always.
  • Praying for your healing, comfort, strength and peace during this painful time.
  • Thinking of you with sympathy — and here for you with loving support.
  • Celebrating an amazing life and wishing you comfort in your memories.
  • Thinking of you with heartfelt sympathy and surrounding you with gentle care.
  • Wishing you feelings of comfort, moments of peace, and memories of joy during this difficult time.
  • May you find comfort in knowing you are not alone in your sorrow and cared for so much by many.
  • Remember that we love and care about you.
  • I am so, so sorry.

PERSONAL SYMPATHY MESSAGES

(Don’t shy away from writing the name of the person who has passed; their survivors will never hear it enough.)

SYMPATHY MESSAGES FOR LOSS OF MOTHER OR LOSS OF FATHER

  • The wonderful qualities of your mother are being carried on beautifully by you. She will always be remembered.
  • Your father raised an incredible man in you. May you always feel his pride and love.
  • You took such good care of your dad. He was lucky to have you.
  • Your mom certainly left a one-of-a-kind mark on the world. It was an honor and pleasure to know her.
  • Your father will forever remain in our hearts and memories.
  • It was truly a pleasure to work with your mom. She will be missed by many.
  • I didn’t know your mom, but I know she must have been special to raise someone like you.

SYMPATHY MESSAGES FOR LOSS OF SPOUSE

  • If you ever want to talk about [John], I would love to listen.
  • Sharing your sadness in the loss of sweet [Debra] and sending you comfort during this difficult time.
  • There are no words. But there is love (so much love!) surrounding you — and in the memories of [Jane.]
  • The joy that [Roger] brought to the world will never be forgotten.
  • Letting you know I’m thinking of you and I’m here for you.
  • We are holding your family in our hearts and lifting you in prayer.

SYMPATHY MESSAGES FOR LOSS OF CHILD

  • I know your heart is aching and I’m thinking of you with comfort and love.
  • I can’t imagine what you’re going through. I’m so sorry for your loss.
  • Words can’t express the sorrow we feel. Sending you peace and love at this sad and difficult time.
  • Holding you in my heart, surrounding you with love.
  • Sending you prayers for strength as you find your way through each day.
  • The loss of a child is heartbreaking. Ryan was a wonderful kid and he will be terribly missed.

SYMPATHY MESSAGES FOR MISCARRIAGE/LOSS OF PREGNANCY

  • Wishing you any and everything you need to bring you comfort during this time.
  • Words can’t express how sorry I am. Holding you with love, in my heart.
  • Remember you’re not alone.
  • I’m thinking of you, and I’m here for you.
  • Be gentle with yourself, and take all the time you need to heal.
  • Just want to remind you how much I care about you.

SYMPATHY MESSAGES FOR LOSS OF FRIEND

  • Being friends with [Susan] will always be one of my greatest gifts.
  • I will miss [James], too — and carry him in my heart, always.
  • [Sandy] made a beautiful difference in so many lives; she will be remembered with love.
  • Sending you thoughts of comfort during this difficult time — and remembering [Pamela] with love.
  • I feel so grateful to have known [Greg] and will remember him always, and often.
  • I hope it brings you some comfort in knowing that [Matt’s] life will be celebrated with joy and gratitude by his many, many friends.

THOUGHTFUL ADDITIONS TO SYMPATHY CARD MESSAGES

  • A personal story or favorite memory of the person who has passed is always a treasured “gift” to read.
  • Including a photograph adds a unique and special personal touch.
  • Many comforting and inspirational quotes or religious scripture (if appropriate for the family) can be found online, such as:
  • “What we have once enjoyed we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us.” —Helen Keller
  • “Only a moment you stayed, but what an imprint your footprints have left on our hearts.” —Dorothy Ferguson
  • “May you take comfort in knowing there is one more angel above us.” —Unknown

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